Being a adopted full Korean and not knowing to much about where I came from is something I never really cared about. My adopted family is my life, and I am quite happy with them. On top of that, being a taller Asian of 5’11 and on dating sites makes me the subject to the growing number of American fan girls in America and around the world. The Korean k-pop seen has made me more popular in the past few months then I had ever been in the past. I have now talked to over 100 different girls who like the music or, is intrigued by the Korean culture and want to dive right in to everything. They want to move there and or learn the language and take in all the mannerisms of the beautiful and amazing culture. I have talked to people who have been to korea and tell me how terrible America is compared. How nice the people are and how everyone helps everyone and is super sweet. The grandfathers will help you when your lost, and ect. Ect. That being said. They are missing one major factor that makes the culture so appealing to so many.
Since I have had to sit down for hours at Korean peoples homes and listen to them talk about their history and suchbecause that is what you do if you find someone of your kind who does not know much about the culture… I know a little more then I let on. I have learned about, and read about and been with the older generation. And have seen with my own eyes of what all the k pop fans are attracted to. And you know what. They are missing the fact that the people are nice over there because they RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE. They take a promise seriously and they take people for their word. They do not say something to one person and then act differently most of the time. I mean there are exceptions and the new Korean way is very different then the older generation. But… That is what everything is based out of. The old way. And even k-pop is supost to be about purity and happiness and a fun enjoyful way of living. With love songs and lots of emotions.
The girls who I talk to and want to be like them and learn the ways are more rude and bigger liers then the other people I talk to. They will promise a lot and say more because they see a cute face and then forget and change in a matter of weeks. Superficial. They forget about you and I dont know… They are all emotional. And seem to not make up there minds…. They want one thing and will put forth a lot of effort but will dwindle away and forget what they promised. This has happened time and time again. And you say Anson, every girl is like that!. But no… They are not. I have talked to many more women and girls who do not care for me at all. But will say hi and ask me how I am doing more constantly and longer down the road then any girl who thinks they want to become part of The Korean thing. The Korean culture is beautiful but the biggest thing is respect and understanding. Growing and making yourself better not wanting to stay the same way you were. To become a better person and to live more freely of guilt and lies. To understand and to have trust in one another. I just want someone from my generation to have the ability to keep there word and do what they said they would.
People have good intentions, and want to change. But, can never contine and keep going long after the excitment or drama has gone…